The Power of Love

Before I begin, I want to acknowledge the fact that you, my dear reader, may disagree strongly with me on the issue I’m raising today.  And that’s quite all right.  I just wanted to present you with another side of the story—how the power of love works, in all situations.

I’m talking about same-sex marriage, of course.

The following video was posted by my friend Mike Morrell yesterday on Facebook.  I watched it and started crying around 4 minutes.  There’s this guy, and he’s amazing, and I wish I could hug him…just to thank him.  But I’m being verbose.  Watch it.  He’s magnificent.



It got me to thinking about another video I absolutely LOVED, and that was Zach Wahls’ speech to Iowa legislators (at a hearing for a proposed gay marriage ban), so I’m including it for you today.  He talks of the normality of his life, the deep love he and his sister share with their mothers.  His speech, of course, did nothing to reverse the legislators’ decision.  They voted (62-37) to amend the Constitution to ban gay marriage.



I know I’m providing disparate pieces of information here, but they’re all so lovely, so keep going, if you can.  This piece is by Allison Glock-Cooper and ran in the October 2010 issue of O Magazine.

The power of love is so great that all it takes is an image.  A snippet.  A snapshot.  A girl’s face in a passing train, a desperate embrace in the street.  Bear witness to love, even from afar, and it changes you, sets a bird free in your chest.

Filmmakers know this.  And thank God for that.  Because watching something as gorgeous and powerful as Annette Bening and Julianne Moore wrestle in their ocean of love onscreen in The Kids Are All Right does more than make a political statement; it blasts politics to atoms.  In the film, as in life, when it comes to love, the particulars are irrelevant.  Recently U.S. district judge Joseph Tauro wrote, “To further divide the class of married individuals into those with spouses of the same sex and those with spouses of the opposite sex is to create a distinction without meaning.”

He’s right, of course.  The power of love is not dependent upon anything as prosaic as gender or age.  What matters is the connection of one soul to another, the elemental magic that convinces you that you matter.  That you are seen.  That you are not alone.

It’s good to remember that not too long ago, racism was preached from the pulpits, especially Southern pulpits.  The bigotry was supported with Bible verses, if you can believe it.  So what changed?  I think we realized we got it all wrong.

Same with the treatment of women.  I grew up in a church where women had to wear head coverings.  They couldn’t speak in church, or play the organ, or do anything of value.  Oh, except cook meals for the ill and elderly.  And clean up after everyone.  Again, Bible verses galore.  There was that pesky verse that mentioned the equality of men and women, slaves and masters, but it never seemed to change anything.   I never could figure that out.  Thank goodness for churches today that see women are just as valuable as men, and who recognize them in places of great responsibility.

And just as those were earlier battles in our difficult history with treating people kindly and justly (ongoing still, in some parts of the country), I think same-sex marriage is the civil (and spiritual) battle we’re fighting today.  What do you think?

[Post image: I Love You by jlacy304 on stock.xchng]


  1. Jen N.
    May 24, 2011

    I haven’t watched the videos yet (I’m at work), but I will. I truly hope that someday we look back on this time and think about how absurd everyone was for being against same sex marriage. Allowing interracial couples to marry didn’t bring forth any damnation, so why should this? It’s all so sad. Don’t even get me started on what MN has been doing with the issue lately. Heartbreaking.

    • Elissa
      May 24, 2011

      I agree. I think you’ll like the videos…:)

  2. Don Rogers
    May 24, 2011

    Thank you so much for these videos! I missed even the ads for these segments on ABC. As the parent of a gay son, even I cannot imagine the discrimination he has gone through in his 29 years. Believe me, I would have been one to speak up for the parents in these segments.

    • Elissa
      May 24, 2011

      You’re welcome, Don. My heart breaks when I think of the abuse and discrimination your son must have experienced (and probably still does). Love to you and him.

  3. Rachel
    May 24, 2011

    amen. and thank you. see you at the Goose.

    • Elissa
      May 24, 2011


      I’ve just read your recent blog post. Oh, darling, I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I’m sorry that Christians think you’re an oxymoron. I’m sorry for everything. I DO hope things change for the better…quickly. Truly. xo

  4. Zac Parsons
    May 24, 2011

    Two fire-cracking videos! Mr. Wahls is particularly impressive. I feel that the tide is shifting. History will show this to be the correct and moral stance. But maybe that depends on if you believe that the world is getting better, or worse…

    • Elissa
      May 24, 2011

      We HAVE to improve, don’t you think? It just seems to take forever! 🙂

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