Episode 7: What Is Your Wound?
April 4, 2011

Living the Questions Podcast, Episode 7 (What Is Your Wound?)

What is your wound?  From what part of your heart can you speak most deeply to people?

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Accidental Creative podcast with Peter Block.

Peter Block’s website.

Peter Block’s books mentioned in the podcast:
Community: The Structure of Belonging.
The Abundant Community: Awakening the Power of Families and Neighborhoods.

Peter Block’s 2005 Keynote Address at the 2005 International Servant-Leadership Conference, Indianapolis, Indiana.

Mary Oliver’s website.

“The Uses of Sorrow” by Mary Oliver

(In my sleep I dreamed this poem)
Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.

It took me years to understand
that this, too, was a gift.

Episode Cover Art:

Broken Heart by alexbruda on stock.xchng.

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  1. f451
    Apr 04, 2011

    interesting question. i’ll have to slide that into my own schedule somewhere:

    “Even if I wanted to go my schedule wouldn’t allow it. 4:00, wallow in self pity; 4:30, stare into the abyss; 5:00, solve world hunger, tell no one. 5:30, jazzercize. 6:30, dinner with me. I can’t cancel that again! 7:00, wrestle with my self-loathing; I’m booked! Of course, if I bump the loathing to 9 I could still be done in time to lay in bed, stare at the ceiling, and slip slowly into madness. But what would I wear?!” –Jim Carrey, How the Grinch Stole Christmas

    in all seriousness i’ve often wondered how my wounds could help other people. aside from empathy, i haven’t figured it out yet.
    until then, i’ll listen. for what is there to say when someone shares deep sorrow with you? silence and a hug i’m thinking.

  2. Elissa
    Apr 04, 2011

    Listening is the ticket. I think you’re on to something. 🙂 And a hug can’t hurt, either.

    It takes time to see your wound as a blessing, but I like to think of it this way: When you’ve been wounded, you have less energy to tell others how to live. Instead, you feel a deep kinship with them…knowing they’ve been in the dark forest, too. And that’s the start to a beautiful conversation–whether you speak or not…

  3. Sylvia
    Apr 05, 2011

    Thank your the podcast. This is my favorite poem by Mary Oliver. “Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkess”

    • Elissa
      Apr 05, 2011

      Isn’t it the most wonderful, succinct poem? I’m glad you enjoyed the podcast. Thanks, Sylvia!

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  5. Renae C
    Apr 07, 2011

    There is enough of an audience to matter. But I’m glad you don’t care either way. Keep doing what you are doing. It is important. More important than you can know. Our wounds indeed produce the medicine that we use to help heal the world.



    • Elissa
      Apr 07, 2011

      You’re sweet, Renae. I know we’ve talked about this in the past, and I do think you’re right. I think we’re trying to “right” what was “wrong” before—with lots of love…

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